Goosebrother2 - 18 July 2011 03:40 PM
Support the new candidates, show them how masonry has changed their aspects of life.
Have a gathering outside the lodge, not just meet up on meeting days, promoting camaraderie and thus making a greater bond.
Have a section in the trestleboard dedicated to introducing new candidates, their expectations and reasons why they are looking forward to meeting the other members at lodge.
Have a building association meeting where we can tackle certain issues where we can get the wives to also look forward to attending stated meetings. If we need to upgrade entertainment systems, have more fun activities in the lodge, etc.
Hey Goose. These are good ideas. Of course a lot of it depends on what kind of funds your lodge has, but there are also other circumstances to consider. Is your lodge a dry lodge? Are there rules about gatherings using lodge funds outside lodge?
I can suggest a few more things here. First, when a new member is initiated, get him IMMEDIATELY involved in officer rehearsals. Have the new guys learn ruffian parts. Create persuivant officer positions and make the new guys officers (persuivant is very vague with very few responsibilities so it is all purpose). We created a few of these, also added an official standard bearer officer position for our processions in and out of lodge. By getting the new guys active early, they get to know the officers better, which will hasten the creation of friendships that might tighten the lodge bonds and keep the new guys around.
Also, is your dinner in the middle of lodge? Try having dinner AFTER lodge and serve wine and beer. Then it will feel more like a nice dinner that men will want to attend. Talk to your caterer about bringing your dinners a little more upscale (I’m making sweeping assumptions now, so this might not apply). Try dining with real plates and glassware. Make each lodge night an event, not just a meeting. If you need to raise dinner fees to meet this requirement, so be it. They’ll gripe at first, but if the quality of the dinner goes up, men will pay for it. Still have the lodge subsidize some of it if possible so they feel like they are getting a deal.
Have other events outside of lodge. We’ve gone out for cigars and drinks, we’ve had get together’s on one of our Brother’s roof decks with scotch and pizza, we’ve gone to baseball games together….try some of that. Also, try to incorporate your charity work into your social outings. For example, find needy children in the area and take them to the Shrine Circus on a rented bus. Buy each kid a cotton candy. Have the brothers come and bring their families as well.
The idea is to make the lodge an environment where men don’t feel like they are just going to do the work of the lodge, but rather a place where the gather with friends. Changing this attitude is paramount to your success. Every month my dinner list is between 50 and 80 men. Of those, probably 45 are brothers, and the rest are guests (either men thinking of joining, or visiting bretheren from other lodges). We have this many guests because we’ve made our lodge nights into events. We get creative with dinner. We have lectures and live entertainment. We also give each brother a carnation for his lapel on his masonic birthday. This is only a small token, but brothers appreciate the recognition.
Above all, your lodge needs to feel like a fraternity, not a business. If you can bring back that feeling, you’ll achieve the level of amity and motivation that will keep your lodge alive.