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Question, if any of my family were ever Masons are they obligated to tell me?
Posted: 02 May 2018 05:17 AM   [ Ignore ]  
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Sorry for coming back, just some strange things coming to light, if my father was a mason is he in anyway obligated to tell me?

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Posted: 02 May 2018 05:21 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 1 ]  
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Damnral - 02 May 2018 05:17 AM

Sorry for coming back, just some strange things coming to light, if my father was a mason is he in anyway obligated to tell me?

Or do I only find out at the funeral when ya’ll show up?

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Posted: 02 May 2018 05:27 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 2 ]  
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Damnral - 02 May 2018 05:17 AM

Sorry for coming back, just some strange things coming to light, if my father was a mason is he in anyway obligated to tell me?

Huh? He is your father; why would he compelled to tell you anything? What he chooses to tell you is entirely up to him!

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Posted: 02 May 2018 05:29 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 3 ]  
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Damnral - 02 May 2018 05:17 AM

Sorry for coming back, just some strange things coming to light, if my father was a mason is he in anyway obligated to tell me?

No he absolutely does not have to tell you.

However, it would seem strange if he didn’t as he is your Father!

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Posted: 02 May 2018 05:48 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 4 ]  
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Is it common practice for masons to tell their kids they are a son of a mason? Pass the torch so to say?

Or is it usually unheard of?

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Posted: 02 May 2018 06:04 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 5 ]  
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I’ll just take that as a no, thanks for your time.

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Posted: 02 May 2018 07:06 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 6 ]  
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Give us chance to reply! :)

Dunno really is the answer. In my case, whilst I’d been to Christmas dinners and my mother’s Ladies Night, and helped transport an organ to & from lodge, I wasn’t really aware of masonry until I hit 21 and my father said ‘when you want to join just say’. Up to that point, it was just my father ‘going out for a meeting’ every other month, I wasn’t aware of what it was all about.

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Posted: 02 May 2018 08:45 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 7 ]  
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Damnral - 02 May 2018 05:48 AM

Is it common practice for masons to tell their kids they are a son of a mason? Pass the torch so to say?

Or is it usually unheard of?

There is absolutely no “practise”, it is whatever an individual Freemason chooses/decides to do based on his own individual circumstances and the child.

For example if his son is a troublesome little turd who he wouldn’t actually welcome to meetings of his Lodge he probably wouldn’t go out of his way to mention it.

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Posted: 10 May 2018 06:37 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 8 ]  
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There is nothing obligating us to tell anyone anything. 
It’s no different than joining anything else.  If you joined a tennis or golf club, would you be obligated to tell anyone that you joined?  I would say it’s a pretty similar situation in this case.

So no….dad doesn’t have to tell his kids anything.  However, most members are proud of their membership and would be very unlikely to hide it from their family.  I imagine most Dads would like in their hearts to see their sons join, but many fathers don’t ask their sons to do so, in the hopes that they will come to the decision on their own…and many do.

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Posted: 11 May 2018 01:48 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 9 ]  
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Totally agree. My two sons (12 & 9) are already aware of my membership and have met a number of the senior members of our Province - the ProvGM, his predecessor, the Deputy, the secretary, and the (former) DC. The oldest has already asked me how old he has to to join, so he’s already impressed with the sort of people who are members.

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Posted: 27 August 2018 10:25 AM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 10 ]  
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Ironically, when I first started my journey, no one in my family knew what I was up to (my mother only knew “something” was going on when she kept calling on nights I wasn’t in school, yet was at a meeting).  [reference: most of my family are idiots and not worth my time]

When my wife spilled the beans, I was nearing the start of Fellow Craft when my mother told me that my grandfather was a Freemason (he died before I was born).

Luckily enough, I was able to get a picture of his dues card / history from our Grand Lodge Library and give her a copy of it for Christmas.  Best Christmas present she got in a VERY long time..

While this tale does not relate directly to your question, I would say the same applies to mothers and spouses as well.

They can tell you or not, it is truly their own choice.

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Posted: 06 September 2018 09:37 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 11 ]  
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The only place I understand that a freemason is compelled to state he is one, is in court proceedings in England. At least, thats how it used to be-that could have changed. Nowhere else in the world is a man compelled to let ANYONE know, to include his own family.
Now, that being said-most men that have families, their families would be aware that they were one. Be it through them announcing they are going to the meetings, or via fundraising they attend, or family things-I cannot imagine it being too hard for an immediate family member to know their husband or father is a mason.
But, stranger things HAVE occurred….

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